The Coin You Can't Flip

From the back cover

You are standing on one side of a coin. You always have been. You did not choose the side. Nobody offered the other one. The side you are on is the only one your eyes have ever been able to see, and the eyes have been working honestly the whole time.

The person on the other side of the coin is in your life. A child you tucked in last night. A partner who has gone quiet at the kitchen table. A student you have written reports about. A colleague whose silence at the meeting you took personally.

The misreadings in this book are not failures of love. They are failures of available information. You have been doing your honest best with half the data. You have also been tired. You have been carrying the house. You have had no manual. You were not cruel. You were under-informed.

Information creates responsibility. That is the work this book is asking you to take on. Not perfection. Responsibility.

The book is short by design. The reader it was written for is already tired. Field-guide length stays in the hand.

What the book is

• Forty short chapters, each opening twice. The first opening is what you have always seen. The second opening is what you have not seen.
• After each pair, the small misreading that sat between them is named, and a sentence is offered you can carry into the next time the moment happens.
• A translation table at the back: common behaviours, common misreadings, and the more accurate read underneath each.
• Written for parents, teachers, partners, siblings, colleagues, and anyone standing on one side of the coin trying to learn the other.
• Audiobook narrated by the author and available on Spotify, Apple Books, Google Play, Kobo, and libraries.